Something that I’ve been thinking about a lot lately is how often people let themselves become their own worst enemy. It breaks my heart to see people suffering, but it breaks my heart even more when people suffer but don’t do anything about it. Happiness isn’t a constant, and it’s foolish to think that it is. But happiness is always available. Happiness is a choice. Regardless of what your past, present, or future looks like, there is always an opportunity for joy. There is a bright side, you just have to be willing to find it.
we accept the love we think we deserve
– the perks of being a wallflower
This quote exemplifies the point i am getting at. Although it relates it to relationships we have with each other, I think it can be applied to happiness as well. If you think that your life it the absolute worst, it probably will be, but if you think that your life is beautiful, it will be that too. It’s just like the old saying, “he who says he can and he who says he can’t are usually both right.” It’s all about making a decision. You have to decide for yourself that you have enough worth to deserve happiness.
So whether you find your happiness in books, movies, coffee, other people, dogs, cats, sloths, or spiders, embrace it. Go out and do what makes you happy; allow yourself to experience joy. I know that sometimes it is much easier said than done, especially when people bring in the issue of mental illness. But i can tell from first hand experience with severe depression and anxiety, it is all about the choice. Even cognitive behavioral therapy (one of the most successful therapies in treating clinical depression) finds its basis in positive thinking. It is about identifying unhealthy thought patterns and replacing them with beneficial thought processes to help one overcome their mental illness.
Obviously I’m not diminishing the effects of mental illness or criticizing people who truly suffer greatly and need professional help. I’m simply putting out there that there is always a bright side, and it is up to you to seek it out and exploit it. Don’t be afraid; go out and find your happiness.